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Over ten or more years of joint work on international projects, John and I became good friends and respected colleagues. He was cooperative, knowledgable, helpful and always willing to lend a hand to my domestic and international clients. He ssisted greatly in breaking business start-up log jams for international investors, and making them feel "at home" as they developed their new business in North America.
John's greatest gift to me, however, was personal, simple, streight forward and most kind.
A few years ago my wife of 30 years died unexpectedly, and I was traumatized with grief. I knew that John had lost his first wife to an unexpected medical event, and had also suffered personally greatly having to raise children on his own for a while, etc.. Knowing this, when I bumped into John at an event at the DAC I asked him about his grieving experiences and how he coped. Basically, he said "I know it's tough Walter, but just hang in there. Things will get better with time." Even though he and I are almost the same age, John sort of gave me "big brother" advice which at the time was most helpful.
The real clencher for me regarding John's character and good will came a few weeks later. I was still wracked with grief, and nearly disfunctional, and I could not even get Northwest Airlines to make a simple change to a plane ticket. My wife had purchased a round trip ticket to Italy to attend our son's wedding before she died, and it was her special goal to get to the wedding before she died. In any event, she did not make it and I had a ticket with her name on it and I wanted to change it to my son's grandmother to attend the wedding in place of my deceased wife. But 9/11 problems made this near impossible. I found it impossible to explain the name change problem to anyone at Northwest Airlines or to get them to understand what had happened. And, of course, everytime I tried to get it sorted out, I broke down with grief and tears because I had to go thru the story all over again about my wife's passing, not making it to the wedding, substituting mother in law, etc. Finally, a friend - Bill Richeson of National City Bank - reminded me that I could call John as he knew the Northwest airlines people well. I did so, and after some difficult and heart wrenching explanation to John, he simply said "leave it with me." I had no idea what he was going to do or how he was going to do it, but he called me back the next day and said "all done, problem fixed." He had lifted what was a huge, complex, emotional problem off my sholders and solved it quickly and gracefully. This may not sound like much to the average reader, but to me it was a very thoughtful, kind personal jesture which I shall remember and appreciate for the rest of my life.
Walter J. Borda
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