Worried About Someone? Starting a Conversation That Could Save a Life

MiBlue Daily

Sept. 15, 2026

Dr. William Beecroft, M.D.

According to surveys and public health data, 13% to 17% of people experiencing suicidal thoughts would tell no one or are unsure who to talk to.

Sometimes a person struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts may not ask for help, especially if they don’t have anyone in their life that they truly trust. Some individuals develop suicidal thoughts when they feel like they don’t have any other choices, so providing alternatives and assuring them there is another path forward can be transformative in their aid and recovery.

Bridging the gap to a better outcome starts with having conversations. Friends, family members, and coworkers may notice changes in a person’s behavior and want to intervene. Starting a conversation about such a sensitive topic can feel uncomfortable, but a compassionate, direct approach can create an opening for support, and real, tangible change can begin taking place from there.

Choosing a quiet, private moment and leading recent observations are optimal ways to start a conversation with a loved one. Statements and questions like, “You haven’t seemed like yourself lately. How are you doing?” can open the door without judgment. Avoid minimizing feelings or rushing to offer solutions, and be sure to listen, stay calm, and let the person talk.

If there is concern about an imminent suicide attempt, it is appropriate to ask directly. Something like, “Are you thinking about suicide?” Asking someone about suicide does not increase suicidal thoughts or behavior, making direct questions like these are appropriate and sometimes necessary in determining whether a person needs immediate support.

Additionally, some people experiencing suicidal thoughts may not be frank about their feelings. They may still deny having these thoughts when asked directly. That’s why staying engaged and following up – especially when warning signs still seem apparent – is key.

Depression can show up as: